Being there for a Friend

Friendships are probably some of the most important relationships you will have in your life. Many of your favorite memories are likely to include times you have spent with friends.

Friendships can be hard work sometimes, especially when your good friend is going through a tough time or is just feeling down. Not knowing what to do, or what to say can be hard, frustrating, and emotionally challenging. However, just by thinking about what you can do to make them feel better, shows that you are a good friend. So how can you be there for a friend in need?

Listen - Never underestimate the importance of listening. One of the important parts of listening is trying to understand the situation from your friend's point of view. If you aim to do this you'll find you'll ask the right sort of questions and they'll appreciate having someone who truly cares about how they feel.

From that point on you will probably feel more comfortable talking through possible solutions to your friend's situation with them, if they want to. Don't assume your friend wants advice - sometimes they may simply want someone to listen to what they're going through, and to work out what they're going to do themselves.

Give your friend a hug - A simple gesture such as a hug or a smile can show your friend that they are not alone and that you are there for them.


Let your friend know you care - You might want to write a letter or a poem addressed to your friend, showing how special they are to you and no matter how tough things get; that you will be there for them because that's the importance of friendship.

Keep in touch - If you can't physically be with your friend when in need; think about sending an email, chatting on MSN or a quick phone call, to show that you are there for them.